What Should I Do If My Partner Is Bisexual?

It can be a bit of a surprise when someone you love tells you something that you hadn't realised. It doesn't matter if that 'something' is "I'm adopted!", or "I've won the lottery!" or "I've just lost the car on a game of online poker!". Some news is good news, some news is bad news, and some news it just news.

On hearing their partner is bi, some people wonder if this means they'll be unfaithful, or leave them for someone of a different gender, or if this means they've already been sleeping around during the relationship.

But being bisexual doesn't mean these things - just as being attracted to a range of hair colors, or ages, doesn't mean that either. You're the one they're with, you!

If the prompt that made your partner tell you was a simple desire to be more truthful, that's great. Kind of like telling you they're really adopted just after you met their parents. Try to treat it like that, and not like they lost the car.

It's not the lottery either - rather than think "Are there some good things about having a bisexual partner?" may be you could try wondering "Are there some good things about having a partner who loves me so much they'll be honest to me?"

But if they're telling you the reason they're being unfaithful (for example) is because actually they're bisexual, then feel free to wag a finger at them for us. Being bi doesn't make people unfaithful to their partners. Deciding to be unfaithful does that fine on its own.